Things You Really Learn in School

Wake up at 6 a.m.,eat breakfast and go to school. 4 p.m. your home, eat your snacks and do your homework, watch TV a little then by 9 p.m. your in bed and ready to sleep. That's the typical day for most students, your whole day revolves around school. Not to mention hoe hectic it was to be the president of this club or a leader of this group. After graduation you realize things that are a little bit funny sometimes. Do you still memorize the preamble of the constitution or the formula of your physics test? Well, most probably the answer is no.
What are the things that we remember after school, below are what my friends and i have in common.


Discipline

I always wonder before why some school requires morning classes. For a night owl like me it is a big dilemma and so being late is not new to me. :) After school I realize that it is not about how early you wake up, it is the discipline to sleep early to wake up on time, manage your time wisely and keep the luxury of watching TV on saturdays and sundays. Discipline should be with us always especially after school because the real world does not tolerate late comers.

Don't sweat the small stuff

I am such a worry rat and it did not help at all. I was jumping from one school project to another and if something went bad, I panic, which makes it even worst. Deadlines are horrifying having 8 subjects and half of that needs a lot of your attention. Worrying, will confuse you, you'll just forget to deal with the most important things because you are so preoccupied with the least important ones.
Take time to breathe and smell the coffee. :) Some bad things that comes our way does not necessary mean that we have to take them all. The more relax your mind is, the more you can focus on the more important ones.


Take the critisms positively

You may hate your adviser when she tells you how bad your grades are or a seatmate for telling you that your not good in numbers. Wait till you meet you boss and co-workers. Harsh words are hard to take but this will make you realize more things about yourself. It is the perfect time to start looking for your strengths, it is what experts called the process of elimination where you remove weaknesses to look at your strenghts. If your not good in numbers, you may be good in letters. If your horrible in singing maybe it is dancing.


Independence

For the fortunate you have your yaya to take care of you or you mom to cook breakfast and fix your things. The real test of maturity is independence and we are not just talking about financials but a whole lot more. At school, your teachers wants you to do your homework not just because they want to punish you but they are actually teaching you to do it on your own. You will never test your limits or learn your capabilities until you try to do it yourself.


Enjoy!

I took everything seriously in school, not the over-achiever type but more on the perfectionist side. Never will I pass a paper work that has a lot of editing to do, or an artwork that needs improvement on colors. My older friends use to tell me to take it easy because when you after school, you'll miss everything. When your working, you won't be able to bond with your friends like you do in school, mistakes are lesser, failures are much painful and superiors sometimes won't accept that charming smile you flash to your teachers. Take that sweet journey easy and keep lock it in your heart.

Forgiven Not Forgotten

Somebody hurt you, it is too painful to bear, you even curse him/her. Can you forgive easily? Can you just walk away with the pain or bring it with you? Who do you hate the most? The doing or the doer? Hate is such a heavy word, rage, anger or whatever you call it. The pain that inflicts a person cripples her without her noticing it. But how can you let it go? Let the pain slip away especially if the one who hurts you is one of the most important person in your life and your family as well. Somebody whom you trust wholeheartedly.

On my own experience, every time I see the person who hurt me (can't even accept the fact that somebody hurt me, Pride!) I try as much as possible to ignore her, avoid her, treat her as a mere wallflower but I know that is wrong. I have read a lot of articles and even watch Oprah show about this topic. They said that bearing the hate, having it in your heart is the worst thing you can do to yourself because you are repeating every scene, the conflict between the two of you. The person had already forgot what she did to you, while you are still living on it which is the worst that you can do to yourself.

Hate would tear yourself apart in the process and if you are planning to get back on him, forget it, you'll just get hurt more in the process. Learn to let go, harder than it seems but that is the only way to live. Religion, especially Catholicism taught us that forgiving others is the essential part of living. Because God, the Almighty himself can forgive us no matter how big our sins are, how much more we to others. God does not just give people to you who are loving but also the people you will have difficulty loving, because from them, your strength will be tested, the capacity and the limitations of your love, even your own character.

Forgive the things that they did and try to realize what made them do that to you, maybe you are letting them, maybe they are not respecting you because you don't respect yourself too. Remember, the way you treat yourself might be the same way others will treat you. M. Gandhi once quoted " When people cause us difficulty, we can learn to see that they have difficulties in their own lives--and they are from ignorance or weakness," I have learn to live by this since then. Love yourself above all these pain, so in the end, the one who sleep at night without all the guilt is YOU!